For instance, have you ever been so prideful that you could not compromise on something, even though you knew you should? Have you ever been in an argument with your spouse or a good friend where you knew you were wrong but just couldn’t admit it? Of course you have. We all have! We are full of pride, and that’s why we all have conflict in our lives.

“‘God is against the proud, but he gives his grace to the humble.’ So give yourselves completely to God” (James 4:6-7 NCV).

God declares war on pride, ego, arrogance, and selfishness. Any time pride rears its head in your life, you’re on the opposite side of God—and your arms are too short to box with him.

God doesn’t look at pride and just say, “Oh, that’s a little petty.” He openly opposes people who are prideful. God declares war on ego.

You may have already noticed this, but God has a unique way of engineering circumstances that deflate your ego. It’s dangerous to be in opposition to God. When you’re on a collision course with the Creator of the universe, you are going to lose.

If pride causes quarrels, then that means the opposite is true, too. Humility can stop quarrels. The cure for quarrels is humility. Every time you’re humble, you will get along better with your wife, your kids, your friends, your employees, your fellow church members, and your neighbors.

James 4 says God gives grace to the humble. Grace is the power to change. If you want to stop the fighting in your life, then you need grace. And there’s only one way to get grace: Be humble. God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.

Humble yourself, and then give yourself completely to God.

Giving yourself completely to God means you’ve surrendered everything to him, including your pride. Humble yourself so that you can experience freedom from quarreling and conflict.